Nothing To Fear, But Fear Itself
I feel like lately I've been posting a lot of "negative" blogs. I put the word negative in quotations because honestly I feel the topics were real and the view points were realistic, but I can see how they could appear Debbie Downer-ish. I had another blog written, but then I decided to hold it because it, too, seemed pretty critical. So we're going to try something different with this one and I'm hoping for some massive participation.
I was scrolling down my Instagram feed this morning (like I always do) and I noticed that one of the people I follow went paddleboarding in Honolulu. The other day she had something about viewing sharks while in a cage. And I couldn't help but feel envious. I wasn't envious of her, per se. I was envious of the adventures she was embarking on. And not just her adventures. I follow people who skydive and wrestle alligators. I follow entrepreneurs who go out there and follow their dreams. And "follow" probably isn't even the correct word to describe it. I should say they chase their dreams or they hunt them down. And I am in complete awe of this.
So the question is, if these are things I wish I could do, why am I not doing them? And I realized that my biggest downfall is fear. It is so cliché, but so unequivocally true. I am married to stability and security. The unknown or the dangers of "risqué" behavior scare me. This does not only apply to adrenaline based activities such as skydiving or bungee jumping. This applies to things as small as pursuing a better career. How many times have you talked yourself out of applying for a job because you're "not qualified" or you "don't believe you could live up to the position's expectations"? I'm guilty of this. I'm not happy with my employment situation. I love most of my coworkers and I love the work that I do, but I know deep down that I can't see myself doing it for the long haul. The pay is bad, the policies are too strict, and the environment is too political for me. But I worry about making enough money to support my family if I ran my own business. I worry about not knowing how to make money or getting too lazy. I worry about not having benefits. The list goes on. So I stay and I remain unfulfilled.
Therefore, I want to start loosening the reins on stability and security. I want to move out of my comfort zone. I want to put myself out there even if it feels awkward at first. I know that I need to remove my reservations and be myself because that's when I'll find a company who values me and allows me to be myself. And being myself will make me happy. I need to be more confident in my abilities. I have so many talents and skills to offer the world. I just need to take the leap. I need to say "yes" to opportunities: business ventures, trips, group outings, adventures. The possibilities are endless.
Here is where you come in. How does fear paralyze you in life? What are some things you wish you could pursue in life, but don't because of fear? What direction do you want your life to take? And now, what are some things you will change to get there? Put it down in the comments. Let's make connections. Let's make things happen. Let's help each other to get there. The goal is happiness and fulfillment in life. Let's do this!