Call Me A Feminist
I debated calling this piece "I Refuse To Cater To Men", but the title wasn't catchy enough for me. Basically, I always see posts telling women what they should be doing to get a man and keep a man. The most annoying of these is a meme that states: Never let your man leave the house horny or hungry. It pictures a big booty vixen in her underwear "cooking" a meal at a stove. Of course men are in full support, but I'm always a bit shocked when women support this concept as well. But the buck does not stop there. I see articles upon articles that tell women to cook, clean, be supportive, let men do their own thing, provide sex and pleasure their man whenever he wants it, be interested in his hobbies, and be submissive. Call me a feminist, but I disagree.
If you want to know the secret to getting and keeping a man, here it is: Be yourself.
There seems to be this desperation among women these days to make men happy. You sacrifice your beliefs, morals, goals, even your purpose in life to be loved by someone who doesn't even love the real you. This is not a call for you to remain stagnant or never make sacrifices, but to grow positively and learn balance. I believe women should know how to cook and clean, but I believe that men should know how to do this as well. These are life skills, not baiting tools.
This leads me to the concept of sex as a baiting and retaining method. This is the dumbest thing ever. I know everyone will debate me on this and claim that it is "crucial" to a relationship. Sex is the icing on the cake. If it is the focus of the entire relationship then you're destined for short-term relationships for the rest of your life. Here's a new concept: Have sex because you enjoy it, not because you feel obligated. Women, stop using your vagina as a means to an end. If your personality is not good enough to get a man, then you need to do some soul searching and growing. Stop looking at short-term gains as victories.
Another pill that is hard for me to swallow is this concept of the submissive woman. Everyone wants to bring up the Bible when mentioning this concept and yet like most Biblical references they fail to discuss the WHOLE reference which states that a man should take care of the woman just as God would take care of him. He is supposed to protect her and support her. Men who are actually doing this never reference women needing to be submissive. It is always men who want to put women down instead of lift them up.
I also do not believe in catering to a man's every need. It is not your job to make sure that he is taken care of. He is a grown man and should know how to take care of himself. I am a firm believer that you should do things because you love someone and you WANT to do them to make life easier for them. Obligation is relationship killer. If obligation outweighs want then you're doing something wrong. Relationships should be natural and organic, not forced. There is someone out there who will love you just as much as you love them, but they won't find you if you're too busy acting like someone you're not.
If Tippy was a Mortal Kombat character, her finisher would be an overdose of Honest. She's a great mother, awesome friend, who's addicted to writing the truth.