We Conversed Like it was 1999
Stop worrying about what you're missing and focus on what you're having
Last Saturday, April 6th, a friend invited me out to a group dinner and movie. I politely accepted her invitation and understood that when I arrived my friend, who invited me would be the only person there I was familiar wit. As a punctual person I happened to get to the restaurant early. I decided to wait in my car, playing ‘Candy Crush Saga’ on my HTC One X to pass the time.
When I saw my friend park her car, and walk in with two other people I figured now is as good as time as any to walk in as well. I entered the restaurant did a quick scan and let the hostess know I’d seen my “friends” and walked up to the table and sat down. After quick introductions, conversation ensued before another member joined our party.
Another round of introductions and dialogue picked once again. As discussions such as visiting sex shops at the age of seven, why an Irish themed restaurant was picked, and did any of us see the video of Kevin Ware, Louisville Cardinals forward who broke his leg during March Madness, I began to notice that the whole table was conversing. No one was texting, checking Instagram, or seeing if the status they just posted got a like or their latest tweet was favorited or retweeted.
In fact no one had their phone out period. It was as if I was at a dinner table in 1999. Before the iPhone was twinkle in Steve Job’s eye, a time when Palm was just getting its feet wet in PDA world, and Google was just a search engine in beta. Sure this was a time when people had fears of Y2K, but it was also a time when people didn’t worry about what they might be missing and instead focused on what they were having and that was a night out and conversation with people in the now.
I’m guilty of checking my phone, but that night I didn't. Maybe it was due to the fact that no one else did, and I didn't want to be “that guy,” and I’m glad I stuck to my guns. I've heard that people have started stacking their phones upside down, when out with a group of friends. And the first one to grab their phone to check it, has to pay the bill. I don’t think I would go to those extremes, but i definitely get the point. I’m going to leave my phone in my pocket whenever I go out to eat, and give my undivided attention to the table at hand. Hopefully my fellow patrons do the same.